To all the mother’s boys, mommy’s princesses and everyone who has a love/hate relationship with your mommas, this post is for you. No, it’s not yet Mother’s day but hey, do you have to wait for that once in a year event to show how much you love your mom?
Right. Read on. ❤️
Whenever I find myself at the center of attention, may it be because of an award or an acknowledgement for something good I did, I often think about attributing the recognition to my mother. You know how, like whenever I get awarded medals, I would in an imaginary way think of the situation as me awarding the medal to my mother. (Is it just me or is that really a thing?) Most of you may agree with me when I say that, “wherever I am, whatever my title is or whatever recognition I get awarded with, it will always still lead back to my mother and what she had taught me. No matter how talented, how powerful and how famous you are, the one person to thank, for being able to get there is your mother. None other than her. (You can replace mother with father, grandfather, grand mother, uncle or aunt if this doesn’t suit your experience.)
I know there are times (I’m sorry but this is real mom) when they’re annoying, sometimes controlling and most of the time judgmental of your choices, your friends and that Friday night out outfit you’re so eager to wear and look miserable in, but aren’t they just looking out for us? Trying to prevent us from making the same mistakes they did or have heard from other amigas? There may be times when they really wouldn’t make any sense but trust me when I tell you that, sooner or later you’re going to realize how correct your mother is and how stupid it is that you even got angry at her for giving you advice.
If you’re like me, who’s blessed to have such an amazing mother, here are the top 5 things I learned from a strong and independent mother.
1. “Nothing is wrong with over preparing. A bigger bag full of things you can use is better than a stylish one that doesn’t have any use.”
I would always find myself arguing with my mom about bringing an extra shirt, any kind of extra clothing, or umbrellas whenever I think I don’t need it and end up being regretful that I didn’t heed my mother’s advice. Call it a lucky guess or psychic powers but when I didn’t bring an umbrella to school just like what my mother advised, I ended up walking a thousand miles, soaking wet, going home. After that, even the extra underwear, I’m definitely sure would not be needed, has a space in any bag I bring.
2. Gratitude and appreciation goes a long way. Longer than the time it takes to pass through EDSA on a rush hour. Cultivate gratitude.
Mother always take the time to show appreciation to all the people who had helped us in anyway. May it be hired service or just genuine kindness, my mother had taught us to repay or appreciate those people in any way possible. This exchange in support and kindness creates a cycle of love that extends throughout time. Whenever in trouble, we could always find a friend or a past client to provide assistance to us. No hassle.
3. You may have all the friends and fans there is in the world but no one can be as honest and blunt to you than your mother can.
Yup. I have experienced those times when I feel like the prettiest, sexiest, the most attractive person in the world. Sporting my ripped jeans, floral polos and extremely heavy boots, I would hear my friends tell me how fashionable and cool I look. You would think that your mother would definitely approve of this. But no, definitely No. Not my mother. You may hate her for not supporting “who you are” and what your style is, (I know because I had and sometimes even now, we still fight about it) but maybe, just maybe take a look in the mirror and gauge closely if this is how you want to be seen. 50% yes you look fierce but is the other 50% catering to appropriateness and decency? Also, are you going to the church??? Because your family and friends may approve of that sexy chic look but everyone else may not be as understanding.
Anyway, point is, your mother would know what’s best for you. Maybe you can understand a little more if she gets angry at that metallic bra you’re wearing because it makes you look 1964 try-hard scifi film. Hey, Not everyone can understand art, at least you can right? Kudos to mom for telling you an honest, not jealous comment. She’s looking out for you.
4. No, does not mean “I’m not letting you because I’m not fun/I’m boring/I have no friends or I want you to be miserable.” No, is not some power trip. It’s worry and care.
There will be times when we get invited by friends to travel to far away places, hang out at like 3 in the morning with the coolest kids in the block or party all night and “yolo” the semester away. If you’re like me, who still values permission and yes, still ask for weekly allowances then you surely have experienced a devastating “No, you’re not allowed”. I don’t have anyway to make this look good or cool to you because hey, I hate it when my parent’s don’t allow me to join in on the fun but there really is a reason why. If you find it in your heart to actually listen to your mom/parents then you’d know they’re just worried about what may happen and the scary recent events that had happened to the place you’re planning on going to OR the amigas of manila have chika’d to your mom about the bad insects living in that place. Summary is, she’s not letting you go and there’s a lot of reasons for that. Not because she’s cruel or doesn’t have any friends. Chill!
5. “Papunta ka palang, pabalik na ako ng sampung beses” – Where Ever you’re going, I’ve been there and back ten times more.
I’m not sure if that’s the right translation but what I’m trying to say is that, our mother’s have definitely been through a lot. This may be because of her age or because of all the different work she had to do. She has experienced so much and trust me when I tell you that she’s credible when she’s giving you advice about all the different things in your life. You may heed or advice or not. I know, I’ve been through times when I don’t listen to her and I follow my own decisions. It’s wonderful, knowing you can do whatever you want and follow your own choices but there were times when I wished I followed her and what she had to say instead. Maybe things would have been better for me. Our mothers may not always be right, but they’re surely looking out for us, for you. If ever you find yourself wanting to disobey your mom or just ignore her warnings., think twice. Why would she even give effort to scold you? Is it for her or is it for you?
Who you are right now, what you’ve been doing or thinking, half of it or more may be because of who was there when you were growing up. Lucky for me, I have been with my mother for the 20 years that I’ve been alive. Call me a Mother’s boy and I would definitely wear the title with Honor. I’m thankful for my mom and everything I’ve learned, accomplished and experienced, I thank my mom for all of it. For who I am.
What about you? What are the things that you’re thankful to your mom for? How much has she influenced who you are? Share it to us down at the comments section. Share this with your Mom and friends!
Thanks for dropping by! ❤️