Burbles and Murmurs – What we think when our minds wander

(Disclaimer – This post is of wild thoughts and of senseless ramblings. Don’t waste your time reading this. But if you do, I would love you forever.)

Whenever I feel a little lonely, I look up to the skies and think about all these silly things that would obviously never happen for me. I would think about money bearing plants and if ever the trees surrounding me could reach the moon and take me there. I would think about aliens and how weird it is that they still haven’t made contact with us (if ever they really exist) or if they did and why no one is talking about it. I think about the woman walking in front of me who was rushing and who seemed to be feeling bad about something because of the frown she was wearing. What was she thinking about? Why was she rushing? Is she in trouble? Should I ask her? I don’t think I’ll ever know. Maybe, I didn’t really care or maybe I did.


I walk more and I see all these people big and small, male and female, who have their own separate lives, not caring about anyone who isn’t a priority. Not caring about the people who was passing them by, not caring about the different vehicles honking by the side, not caring about me. 

Me, who was with them at that same area, breathing the same air, smelling the same scent of the wind. Me, who was busy thinking about what other people were thinking about. Do you think that I was creepy? Just standing there staring at them? Looking at people and thinking about what they’re thinking about? 

I stop and sit on a nearby bench and I open my phone’s camera and take pictures of what I was seeing. I see people lining up for ice cream at a dirty Ice cream cart, I see people waiting for cabs. I see kids running around holding their toys and their parents pursuing them, making sure they don’t get into trouble. I wish there would always be someone taking care of us, someone to make sure we don’t get in trouble, that we don’t get hurt, but life doesn’t work that way. We grow up and part of growing up means being able to handle ourselves — Being able to survive on our own. I wonder who *the hell* ever made up a rule like that. Do we grow up so that we could take care of ourselves or do we take care of ourselves to grow up? Is it selfish to wish for someone to take care of us? To protect us? 

I laugh because it’s funny how people are always thinking about themselves and what they need. I laugh more because I remembered I was one of them — who doesn’t want the best for themselves right? Who doesn’t prioritize their own needs? I look back again at those kids playing around. They’re fighting now, I guess because of one of the kids didnt wanna share his toy. How sad. Fighting over a toy. When countries and leaders fight over power, riches and lands. I wonder, how significant am i? How irrelevant are my problems? How much do I matter for someone living in spain? I dont.  

And then I get a text from a friend about something that was interesting and everything that I was busy thinking about the past few minutes vanished like the sun on a sunset. Never to be known by others, never to matter.

What about you? What do you do when you feel a little blue? Are you just like me? I really hope so.

Let’s converse. Hit me with your comments/questions/rants down at the comments section. I’ll be waiting! 🙂

How-to : Have Better Conversations

Looking for inspiration and enlightenment, I turned to the internet for help. I was feeling lost about the coming exam week and I wasn’t sure I was ready to start studying for it. I came upon this Video by TED talks and I was surprised by how much it affected me. My life, (In my opinion) has never been the same. It’s by Celeste Headlee. I don’t really know who she is and what she’s done but gee, she has really turned my “social life upside down and that was only  12 mins of watching her talk.

Her topic was all about communication and interacting with people. You may think that this topic has already been worn-out and had been talked about for a million times already — and to be honest, it has been. Almost all the advice that people can think of about conversations had already been given, recycled and repackaged. So what’s so special about this one? What did she say to have so much effect?

I have read articles about “Making people love you” “Trust you more” and “Have better interactions” and they always usually start with cliche sentences like — “Be interested in what he/she is interested in”, “Give effort to study about what the person likes and like it as well”. At first it really did work out. People are more interested in conversing and hanging out with me and the usual awkward exchange of hi’s and hello’s would transform to 4 hours of phone calls and comments on photos. It works, it really does. 

But what if it doesn’t? And what if the person you’re interested in, have interests that can not or will not give you the spark and the energy to talk about with him/her? What if you you dont have the luxury to involve yourself with their interest? Doesn’t it feel insincere whenever you pretend to like something because you like person you’re talking to? The speaker’s answer? 

DON’T. Don’t converse.

Caffe bene Light bulbs. Photo by me.

Here’s 6 of the tips I liked about Celeste’s talk and my very own take on them.

1. Stop the BS. If you don’t want to talk, dont. Never Multi-task.

This, for me, was a gold mine. It’s so simple yet it made so much sense. How do you make better conversations? If you don’t want to talk, you’re not interested about the topic or just don’t like the person, Don’t. People, your friends or family deserves your whole attention. Deserves someone who’s interested in talking and to respond, if you’re not that person, then don’t talk. It’s either you wont really understand what you’re talking about, you won’t pay attention or it wouldn’t really matter. I agree with this so much. No one deserves half-hearted conversations. Why should anyone pretend they’re interested. Right?

Caffe bene @ Eastwood Libis. Photo by me

2. It’s two-way. Participate.

Congratulations if you had decided to converse then here are two things you have to remember — Respond and Be honest/Frank.

It’s actually really easy. It’s called “talking” because you guys are exchanging ideas, feelings and comments. The conversation will be so much better if both of you are honest with each other and if you guys are really participating in it. Ask questions. Say how you really truly feel. Be part of it. If you can’t then stop. 

3.  Listen

This is actually requirement if you want to converse. Listen because you won’t understand if you don’t. Listen because you will learn. Listen because there are so many people who makes mistakes when they don’t. Listen because you are interested. It all revolves around this.

4.  Do not pretend like you know.

There are two things in this item that I wanna share.
A. When talking about feelings/confessions/memories
Don’t ever pretend like you know how it feels when you don’t. A lot of advice for topics like these would say — “Agree” make the person feel like you know what it feels, you understand what it felt like.” Most of the time, doing this would make you look insincere. If you don’t know how it feels, don’t act like you do. Yes, you’re looking for common ground and similarities but remember — we’re talking about honesty and sincerity here. Feelings are different for everyone. Explore those differences. That would make a good conversation topic. 
B. When talking about facts/events/information.
It’s going to look really funny when someone says things that are inaccurate or false just to prove his/her wits or “excellence”. If you don’t know what happened at the end of the Harry Potter series, don’t proclaim that you do. If you haven’t read the case analysis of a certain incident, don’t pretend that you do. How humiliating it must be to be proven wrong when you confidently state something false and get found out. I know how this feels and I have been through this a lot of times. How I wish I could have just said “I didn’t know.” than debate and be proven wrong. Making mistakes is a learning process but admitting you didn’t know when you don’t is also something we should practice.

5. Be open to learn



Have you heard of the saying — “Everyone is fighting a battle, be kind always.”?

When conversing, be open to learn. Be open to ideas and emotions of other people. You may agree or disagree, you may not like what he/she is saying but isn’t that one of the things that make conversations better? Diversity is what develops our critical thinking. When you’re open to learn, new perspectives may arise for you. You get to see things better (or worst), you can see things and understand things from the view point of someone else. It’s like being there yourself. When you’re open to learn, you grow. And honestly, someone who’s open to know more about what you’ve been to is so much easier to talk with. 

6. Get ready to share who you are.

At the same time, being open to someone else’s ideas and feelings means that you must also be open to share who you are to that person. Remember that a conversation is an exchange. It’s an avenue for you and the person you’re talking to, to get to know more about each other and learn things. Be a person who not only listens but also shares and participate. Be someone who people talk to because you’re someone they learn from, you’re a person they get advice from. When you do this, you have already achieved a “better conversation”.

Caffe Bene @ Eastwood, Libis. Photo by me
 
You can watch more TED talks videos by visiting their website at Ted Website

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Are you having problems with your self-esteem? Need a little boost? Here’s a post I made just for us who know how ot feels to doubt ourselves. Read it with me here – Dealing with Self-Doubt ❤️

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My Media Diagnosis 

(Disclaimer – This post is created solely for my DEVC 80 class and is an Academic requirement.)


An everyday necessity, Media is second nature to Millenials

My day starts at 6 AM. Having my classes starting at 8 AM, had brainwashed me into waking up on or before 6AM. Knowing me and my rituals, I would say, I need more than 1 hour to prepare and make me as “Chardy” as possible for that day. Ofcourse this would mean a 20 minutes bath, lotion sessions, make-up (just right for school) and style what I will wear for the day. Automatically, after concluding my morning rituals, I grab my phone to check on the latest happenings on my social media accounts, my mail for academic and work stuff and my messages for any texts that may be important. I may occasionally post a “Good morning” tweet on my twitter just for fun or check my Instagram to see who’s already posted a selfie or a picture that may describe their recent adventures. At 8 AM, I make sure I have everything I need for class and I leave.

Social media has always been a part of my daily life. Going back 10 years from now, these “Media Rituals” would have been absurd. No normal person would be spending 30 minutes and more looking at a screen. But today, almost everyone is on the loop. All you need is a smart phone, a network connection or WiFi, installed apps and voila, worldwide connection.

Checking my phone for updates on family, friends or news is done (most of the time) involuntarily. It’s second nature for me and I believe I’m talking for most of the members of my generation when I say that having and using media is something I need to survive —- or atleast to survive a boring day or activity.

But do we really need it in order to survive? And if we do, how much “media” do we consume and what for?

For our Communication and Society class for the past months, we had been discussing about the media that surrounds our life. How media is affecting who we are and how we think and what are the theories that are complementing these media. The questions I have mentioned in the previous paragraph was given to us at class and ever since then I have been anxious to reveal how dependent I am of media and its uses.


My Media Diagnosis

Our task was to strictly examine how much media we were consuming for five straight days and were to list down every type of media we were exposed to and make a reflection about how it affected us and why. We were also to list down observations on how each exposure was affecting how we behaved, talked or what we thought about. Interesting right? Take a pen and paper and try to see how I did my diagnosis.

Day 1 and 2 – October 8 and 9, 2016

These days were Saturday and Sunday, which means I had most of the day to myself for fun, recreation and games. I wasn’t worried about academics at these days so my Media usage was immense and different forms of media were used. Saturday, I started the moment I woke up at 10 AM. I browsed my phone and opened the usual apps I used daily, namely Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, WordPress and Edmodo. After 2 hours of that, just lying on my bed, I went to the living room to eat and opened the Television to watch something while I was eating. After lunch, I opened my PS3 Gaming console and played video games until 5 PM and then took a break. At 8:30 PM I was already using my phone to open Social Media sites until I fell asleep.

Here’s my consumption table : 


 

Conclusion for Day 1 – 2 = Media Addict + Social Media Lurker. My whole day was spent on using media and the gadgets that catered to them. I failed to do anything that had no relation to the internet and aside from eating and showering, I had my phone on my hand the whole time.(Seeesh, talk about being an addict.)

Day 3 -4, October 10 -11, 2016

My day started immediately after turning off my alarm. At 5:45 AM I started to proceed with my rituals and at 6:25 I was already holding my phone for my updates. I have Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, WordPress App and Edmodo automatically opened and for the rest of the day these were the most frequent apps that I have used.

Here’s my Consumption table :

 

Conclusion for day 3-4 = I was a kick ass social media user. Making sure I open every app that I have followers or friends that I needed to check updates on or just stalk. Some media were opened for a legitimate purpose but  some were just for the sake of checking updates. The content that I saw was prevailing on my thoughts for the whole day. For example: The video of “Top horror movies you should watch” that I saw on Facebook had me wary of who might be looking at me.

Day 5, October 12, 2016

The last day of my experiement, I wanted to believe that I had learned something from my little experiment and had tried to avoid the use of any media for that day. At 6AM – 8 AM, I had turned the WiFi option off in my phone and was pleased to discover that I didnt have an addiction with mobile apps. Unfortunately, to my dismay, I recieved calls and text messages that a few of my groupmates sent in order to remind me about deadlines and activties that we needed to do for that day. I opened my Facebook for the updates and headed immediately to edmodo to get a copy of that lecture presentation I needed to study. While downloading I sneaked in on my twitter to tweet about how exhausted I am for that day. And my last consumption was when I opened my Facebook messenger, just before I went to bed, to message my mom about family matters.

Here’s my Consumption table :


 

Conclusion for day 5

Small steps towards redemption – My willingness to reduce my media exposure was a bit helpful in controlling myself from using my phone. I was able to reduce my normal 8-9 hours of social media sites like facebook to 3.5 hours and twitter to less than 1 hour. Een though I had a mishap with my groupmates contacting me, I felt a bit refreshed from not having my face glued to my phone . 

Results

Based on the number of hours I’ve spent using social media and other gadgets, I can say that I’m unfortunately an addict. Regardless of how I controlled myself, I still found myself  opening the apps and updating myself with the recent happenings around my country, friends and school. This only implies that every news and information I get are taken entirely from social media and television. My stories, activities and work all revolve around the internet and having a connection. This makes me feel afraid. How addicted am i? What do I do if the internet suddenly disappears? How do I cope with not being on the loop of the recent happenings and lastly, would I be happier? If I no longer depended on the internet and social medias? Or is it really a deciding factor in my life? 
Lessons :

1. Making observations about actions and habits that we do, makes one more knowledgable not only about the self but also about other people.

2.  Making lists are fun and they incite creativity and productivity.

3. What you frequently do or use can say something about you.

4. Media is a double edged sword that can save the world or destroy it. It changes minds and control them.

5. We have the power to control our consumption and exposure of Media and Social media.

6. Media is not almighty, it’s not entirely good. It depends on how we take advantage of it, 

7.  Education is key. (Just for the sake of adding this.) Nothing helps more to Self control than being knowledgable and really gathering information.

8. Media is viewed and used differently for every individual. Do it the correct way.
What about you? Have you ever tried knowing your media usage and performing a Media diagnosis? I liked how much it changed me and my perspective.  We should all get checked. 
Thanks for dropping by! ❤️

Amor Bakery : sBread your love – Katipunan Branch

1. Nothing pains me more than going to my favorite coffee shops (To study for hell week, duh) and finding out that there are no more tables available for me. 2. Worst : Waiting 5 – 10 minutes hoping for someone to leave but getting your heart broken because no one does. 3. Worst than worst : Moving on and finding out that your back-up favorite cafe is ALSO full and no one has plans on making you study. 

Do you give up and not study? NO. You visit Amor Bakery.


If you’re tired of the usual hustle and bustle of Starbucks, CBTL and other coffee shops then boy, do I have news for you. 

Amor Bakery, as shown on the pictures below, has space for your whole lecture class. (Just kidding, but really, it’s so big.) Located at 297 Katipunan Avenue, Loyala Heights, Quezon city (They have branches also at Mindanao Ave, Binondo, Ongpin.) has 2 floors filled with tables, couches and areas conducive for your next alone-time studying or “Inarte”. 



I fell in love. And I know you will too, especially with this branch in Katipunan that recently Grand Launched the start of October.

Here are 3 Things I love about the Katipunan Branch.

1. The Instagram – Worthy Interior.


You cannot miss this. Their heavily thought of design is prevalent even outside the place. It becomes even more appealing inside, especially when you see all the lamps, chandeliers and book cases. (I looked really weird, taking photos of every part of the place.)


Every side is worth the shot, as each area has a different story. Tables and chairs are not similar in design and every table has a lamp and a chandelier to light up your world. (LOL)
and hey, the comfort rooms are funky too. (And also have chandeliers) 


2. Their Menu ( Food especially their Bread and Coffee.)

Imagine French Baker topped with Statbucks Coffe but better.

Wasn’t able to try everything but I’ll make sure to come back for more. Definitely going back for the cakes!

In the meantime, I got myself a taste of their Bread with spicy floss and the one with almonds and a large serving of Caramel Macchiato.


PS: Take outs are available and you don’t actually have to stay there to enjoy their delicious meals.

What about the costs? 

– Medium to Pricey.

Bread and Coffee are priced relatively the same as other coffee shops and bakeries. I found their bread cheaper and more satisfying tbh. (But hey, Try for yourself.)

3. The Ambiance

Yup. We have found it folks. No need to worry about studying as almost everyone who’s inside are busy with their workload/acads/org work and are too consumed with their laptops to even make noise. Ofcourse, we can’t really stop anyone from talking or making any noise as this is a public place but trust me when I say that, you wouldn’t really hear them as the place is really wide and their “fancy playlist” is balancing the sounds enough to help you focus on what you have to do. Productivity = Check!

You’re surely going to finish a lot of work here as the place is also OPEN from 7AM to 12 MN. No stress with hearing staff announcing last orders or closing time. 
CONCLUSION : Perfect for your next study session or for dates. (With your loved one or yourself)

Alas, because the branch had only opened early October, the place still do not have WIFI available for their customers. Cons – No access to the net and won’t be able to uplaod your gorgeous selfie. Pro – More time to study, less distraction and hey, more reasons to interact or chat with your friends without being distracted by your phones. Good thing is you asked me. 🙂

Ratings:

Interior – 10/10

Ambiance – 10/10

Food – 8/10 (Because I haven’t tried everytying yet.)

Price – 7/10 (Because of expensive coffee, but bread and cake prices are good.)

Space + Comfort – 10/10

Instagram Worthy Photos – 10/10

There you have it! I hope you found the place as lovely as I did and I hope you check them out! Nothing beats having to check out a place and being able to write about the experience. How exciting! 

Visit Amor Bakery’s Social media ccounts @ amor.bakery on Instagram and AmorBakery @ twitter.com

Thanks for dropping by! You should go visit the place and rate it for youself. In the meantine, you can go to the comment section below ⬇️ if you have any questions, concerns or stories you wanna share. Happy Blogging! 

If you’re feeling a little rejected and ready to say good bye to happiness,  check this post out – EMBRACING REJECTION

Photo Walk: The Beautiful city of Sorsogon

You can never really know the beauty of a place until you have been there and had seen it for yourself. Pictures and videos are not enough to capture how amazing the location is — it must be experienced, it must be felt. This is what I had proven last Friday, September 16, 2016, when me and 22 other students from the College of Development Communication, UPLB had traveled to the city of Sorsogon, Bicol for an academic requirement and also for us to be exposed to the things happening in the “outside world” of our University, and for our Participatory Journalism class.

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Getting there:

We started our journey to Sorsogon city by first riding a rented Jeepney from the UPLB Campus to the DLTB Station at the Turbina Terminal. We arrived there at 6PM and left immediately as traffic was already worsening and the travel duration was 10-12 hours. The DLTB bus was comfortable, aside from the horrific and bloody movies being shown on the TV screen, the travel was a breeze. No hassle, no problems! #ThanksDLTB.

We had a total of 3 Bus stops: One at Tagbilao Quezon, the next at Camsur and the last, at Naga City Bus Terminal. At 4 AM we arrived at Sorsogon City and headed immediately to Novotel (Thanks Novotel!) to rest.

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The Purpose of our Visit

Our trip, because of the amount of work and requirement that we had to do, had very few chances to visit tourist attractions. The areas that we covered are mainly located at the Sorsogon City proper and sadly, we did not have the chance to visit the famous tourist destinations here like: The Donsol Whale sharks attractions, Bulusan Mountains and Volcano, Barcelona Historical Churches and the Irosin Hot springs.

But nonetheless, me being an avid fan of beautiful locations and amazing food, still had the opportunity to take snapshots of the amazing city of Sorsogon and all the fun things you can see here. Below are the photos that I took while touring the city of Pili Nuts.

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The locals, enjoying the windy breeze at the Capitol park.
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A wider view of the park.
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The Majestic Government of Sorsogon City Building.
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The Sorsogon City Hall. Beautiful right?
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Jose Rizal’s Statue. Erected at the center of the Capitol park.
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Sorsogon City’s Welcome Ark.

Quick Trip # 1 – Rompeolas, Sorsogon City

Just a few meters of walking or less than 5 minutes tricycle ride from the city is the popular family destination in Sorsogon, the Rompeolas. Buzzing with families, children playing and lovers holding hands, the Rompeolas is a place where people, young and old alike visit to refresh and relax. Families take their time strolling the long street filled with food stores, restaurants, grills and karaoke spots. Visitors can also see the view of the sea, the nearby islands and ofcourse, the enormous MT. Bulusan (The volcano that erupted while we were at the place). If you’re into eating street food and Pancit while enjoying the sea breeze, then the Rompeolas should be on your bucket list.

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Friends riding a motorbike around the Rompeolas. (Tried taking silhouettes)
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The large Pili Nut statue that is at the center of the place.
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Small boats nearby.
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The scenery.
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Blurred lines
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This is where visitors hang out. There are more around the place.
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The View of the Mountain.

Quick Trip #2 – Paguriran Island, Bacon, Sorsogon City

As a reward for completing all the class tasks for the day, our adviser, rewarded us with an unforgettable visit to the beach. The place was beautiful. No words can truly capture and describe the island of Paguriran. The resort had no entrance fee, this means that everyone can enter and swim at the place. However, the cabins and cottages have to be rented. Ours was 200php for the whole stay. There were a few shops nearby and a canteen was located at the entrance, this is where our team had rice cooked.

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The beach was the best part of our whole trip. The sands were white and clean, the water was  clear and cold. Not one of my classmates were able to resist swimming at the beach.

Also, Take note that the time you visit the island is really crucial as the high tide and low tide drastically changes the views of island. We arrived at the time when high tide was hapening, so we weren’t able to see much of the rocky island exterior and the much talked about land bridge that you can walk at to get to the island when there is a low tide. The place is crawling with Instagram-worthy shots and locations so you better charge your gadgets first before you visit.

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My classmates, crossing  the beach to the Island of Paguriran.
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The serene atmosphere of the beach.

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The huts that surrounds the beach and the visitors.

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Blurred image that focuses on the lining of the clouds.

To end

Over-all, the trip to Sorsogon city was filled with educational and recreational activities that marked me and changed my perspective so much. The place not only has remarkable destinations for tourists, their food is also worth every penny (To be blogged about soon).

I am definitely going back here as there are still many places in Sorsogon that are raving in reviews from tourists that I have to see for myself. What about you? Do you know any tourist destination is Sorsogon that you would like to share with us? Or do you have any inquiries about my experience/adventure?

Hit me up with your kwento/comment/questions below! <3

Thanks for dropping by!